My husband said no to a second child years ago-even though I desperately wanted another-and now I'm 42 and the time when it would have still been ok for me has passed. I always had a really irregular cycle so after my daughter was born I didn't want to go back on birth control. My husband refuses to consider a vasectomy and now I think what I've been experiencing these past several weeks is a miscarriage. I don't think he believes me. We don't have a bad marriage, but there are times when he's just totally emotionally unavailable. I've decided that I'm going to look into sterilization surgery for myself and I'm just feeling very sad.